One of the top players in the WoW MDI scene recently announced that he was taking a break from WoW and streaming because he was depressed. He cited how isolated he had become, how he hadn’t been connecting with his friends and working out, which is apparently something that helps him stay balanced. (Exercise is actually good for you, can you believe it? My psychiatrist always tells me I need to exercise more, it will help with the depression, arthritis, chronic pain, etc.) One of my friends thought that this player shouldn’t play in the MDI finals at all, because he wouldn’t have enough practice, wouldn’t be ready, and would cause his team to fail. I had more sympathy. I thought it was brave of this player to speak out about his mental health, because speaking out about your mental health, especially if you have a high public profile, can help erase the stigma.
In a way, I can relate to what this player is going through. I think I’ve been depressed and anxious for most of my life. I’ve also been playing video games for a very long time. My dad bought an Atari when I was in 5th grade, and I remember watching him beat Pac-man over and over. This is one of the few childhood memories of me and my dad and brother having fun. Anyway, so I started getting seriously depressed (to the point I needed therapy and probably medication) during grad school. Maybe, the depression became worse because I was writing something like creative nonfiction or personal narratives. They were mostly stories based on my past experience. Relationships with men/boys, with my parents. The things I carry that my most recent therapist believes prevent me from living a normal life. And are the reason I distrust men and getting close to people in general, and have difficulty maintaining friendships and relationships. Basically because I’m afraid of getting hurt. I saw a therapist in my last year of grad school. Intensive sessions that dug up a lot of stuff, memories, that I hadn’t dealt with and recovered from. I was in a bad relationship at the time, didn’t have any friends outside of that relationship, and although my brother lived in the area, about 30 mins drive away, we weren’t exactly friends either. I didn’t know how to talk to him about my personal stuff, it was just embarrassing to bring up those things I was having enough difficulty processing in therapy.
Around the time I finished grad school, the guy I was living with at the time broke up with me. He gave me until the end of the month for me to move out, although we had shared the lease, and he didn’t own the apartment. I had to find a place pretty quickly. All I could afford was a studio apartment whose rent was $750/mo. I could barely afford it. I was working as a freelance typesetter; most of my jobs were with an independent academic publisher. But it wasn’t enough. I worried about money a lot. How I was going to pay for my (private) health insurance, so I could continue therapy and receive treatment for other health conditions, like my heart arrhythmia. As I said above, I didn’t have any friends. Since I really liked playing video games, I started playing an MMORPG, Guild Wars, and made friends in the game. My therapist however was concerned that I was so isolated. He said that I needed to make friends in the real world because after I came out of the game I would have nowhere to go and no one to talk to. A video can’t love you back, can’t provide the social support, the physical contact that most humans need to feel less alone and taken care of. Soon enough, my depression worsened. I had gotten an office job similar to my freelance job, which would enable me to pay my rent and receive health insurance through my employer. But I didn’t even finish the training. I had trouble sleeping, my anxiety was so bad I called in sick, and I was told not to come back. I became suicidal. I was hospitalized for 15 days in a psych ward.
When I was discharged, I saw a new therapist who lived closer to my apartment and whom my inpatient caseworkers thought would be able to help me better. I had to sign a contract with my new therapist, who confiscated all my games, which at that time were contained on discs and in retail boxes. I hadn’t uninstalled the games at first, but in order to receive treatment, my therapist insisted I uninstalled them. It makes me laugh a little when I think about that. But I think my therapists and caseworkers really meant the best. Now, I use WoW as a distraction, something to do when I get out of bed, something to keep me going during the day, something to look forward to when I wake up. But there are probably other things I can do as well. Walk the dog, which I should do more often. Write more. Read more. Get out of the house. Take a walk at the marina (while wearing a mask). Yet, thinking about all that makes me so tired.
I’ve been depressed lately. WoW has been depressing. I hate all the dungeons. Tanking them sucks. I wanted the KSM achievement, but I don’t think it’s worth the stress and anxiety, shoulder and knee pain. I’m just satisfied I got to tank a heroic raid and achieve AOTC with my guild. Raid tanking is all around easier than tanking some of these new dungeons in Shadowlands. Now, I just want a break. I want to sleep better. I wanna rest my shoulders. I want to write. I want to find new meaning in life. I don’t wanna see WoW. I don’t even feel like logging on today. I hardly played yesterday except to farm a few bosses in raid. I miss language and words, my ways of speaking outside of WoW. At this time, I want to practice writing more than practice tanking an m+ dungeon. And I want to feel happy. I remember that feeling when I conclude a story or a poem that I know no one else could write but me. That’s the stuff that makes me feel special and awesome, and at the same time humble. It’s a small thing but also I think the best thing I bring into the world, that maybe makes the world just a little bit of a better place.